Male Mastery: Why Do Men Cheat?
The smell of her perfume, the gentle touch of her hand, and the flirtation has got you harder than a thirteen-year-old boy watching PornHub. Many women are left wondering why do Men cheat?
Why do Men Cheat?
More evident, it's making you feel alive, wanted, and, more importantly, validated. Simply knowing you aren't over the hill and other women still find you attractive has the potential to blindside your moral compass.
Loyalty, the kids, your career and all sense of reality can suddenly disappear in a heartbeat. You know it's wrong, and it will more than likely end in heartache, potentially destroy your family, not to mention cost you thousands of pounds if things were to end in divorce.
But the temptation for most Men is too much to resist
We all have needs, and I don't just mean sex. There's the emotional aspect, connection, and energy often lost in long-term relationships. But let's not be under any illusion, for we are Men, and our primal and primitive desire is to hunt, feed and fuck. At least, it was hundreds of years ago.
Has much changed in modern-day society?
For the best part, no. What Man doesn't like to feed and fuck? Obviously, Men nowadays choose to source their food from the supermarket rather than hunt wild bore in the forest.
But the modern Man does, in fact, hunt much more than our forefathers ever did - hypothetically speaking. Today Men are more inclined to hunt for acceptance, reignition, respect, wealth, and, let's not forget, Instagram likes.
A female perspective
Ask most women why Men cheat, and they will likely say it's because we think with our dicks. Yes, that's true for the best part. But Men have feelings, too, and I don't mean that in some simple, beta male way. We still crave attention, the need to be wanted, accepted and desired.
However, when you're in a sexless relationship, an emotional connection with your wife or girlfriend is usually the next thing to be lost. What was once a relationship built on sexual desire and lust becomes nothing more than a friendship. A friendship between two friends who used to be lovers
Why do Men cheat?
Let's be honest - most Men "who aren't getting any" would cheat in a heartbeat if the opportunity presented itself, and there was no way they would get caught. Now I'm not going all Andrew Tate on you here, but facts are facts.
Married Men in their 30/40s are the worst culprits. Why? Because they are usually the ones in sexless relationships. At best, they only experience dull, boring and irregular sex with their wives or girlfriends when they've been "a good boy". It's not uncommon for women to use sex as a bargaining tool to get their own way.
When I've been on a stag do, or lads' weekends away, I could guarantee the guys who were going to instigate going to a strip bar or whore house. In most cases, it was the hen-pecked married guys who, for the best part, don't have much of a life outside of the family circle and the ones who only get their end away once a week - if they're lucky. And believe me; I know guys who would count themselves lucky to get it once a week.
So when the opportunity presents itself, these guys go balls deep (no pun intended) and act like a kid who has just got the golden ticket to Willy Wonkers' chocolate factory.
This is where so many women go wrong in relationships. They think keeping their Man away from temptation is the key to ensuring he remains faithful, and the reality couldn't be further from the truth.
Another reason so many married Men pay for Only Fans and prostitutes and are high consumers of porn
The most effective way to keep a man from straying, as we know, is to keep his sexual needs fulfilled. It's not rocket science. But it's not just sex Men desire.
Just like women, we also have needs beyond the bedroom. We long to be wanted and desired as much as the next person. Men are often accused of having affairs purely for sexual gratification. While there is some truth in that, if it were the only reason, why would Men risk having an affair just for a fuck? Especially when they could easily pay for the service of a prostitute, eradicating any risk of being caught.
The reality is men are not the heartless, free fucking neanderthals mainstream media and many women portray us to be. When a woman rejects us, we feel deflated; when a wife or girlfriend is no longer interested in sex, we feel unwanted, undesired and sometimes need external validation.
Does it make it right if a Man seeks sexual pleasure and attention elsewhere?
The difference between men and women, by and large, is that if both sexes are in a relationship void of sex and desire, a man would be more inclined to look for it elsewhere. It is the primal hunter instinct ingrained in the male psyche. In contrast, a woman is less likely to look for it and may only indulge if the opportunity presents itself. In addition, a Man will engage in sex without any emotional connection, whereas women will more often or not seek a connection before engaging in a sexual relationship.
This is why so often, women will feel worthless and self-conscious after a one-night stand, whereas a Man is happy to walk away satisfied in his conquest.
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The cold hard truth might be a bitter pill to swallow.
Some Men are serial cheaters, nothing more, nothing less. I know Men who love their wives profoundly, yet they are like a rat up a drain pipe at every given opportunity. Is there something inherently wrong with us? No, it's what Men have done since time began. We can hate a woman, her attitude, personality, and what she stands for, but if she is attractive, most Men would still fuck her. A lot of Men are easily able to separate emotions and sex. That's just a fact of life.
Sexual fetishes and fantasies
Another thing I see often and is a catalyst for Men cheating is unfulfilled sexual fetishes and fantasies. This, however, isn't always the fault of a wife or girlfriend. In many cases, it's the Man's fault because he hides his sexual preferences and has never been open about it. In my opinion, that's a recipe for disaster because sooner or later, you will want to act on such desires. The result is an affair or a trip to a professional, and both have the potential to cause you no end of problems.
Communication and transparency
A relationship should be based on trust, and if you can't be open about what turns you on in the bedroom, how does that form any basis for a lasting relationship?
In most cases, a Man wants sex more than a woman; that's human nature. But a worthwhile conversation to have is to find out why sex and lust have fizzled out of a relationship. So many things can take priority and impact a decline in sexual desire - work, kids, stress, or perhaps menopause.
However, the reality might be that the sex isn't going to get better, and that's when a decision needs to be made. How much of an issue is the lack of sex, and is it something you can live with?
What are the options?
That is a question you have to ask yourself.